How to Give a Wedding Speech or Toast – Advice for the Best Man
So, you’re landed to give a toast to the bride and groom and prepare
a wedding speech for your friend’s special day. That means standing up
in front of all those people and actually speaking eloquently, without
hesitation, deviation or repetition!. If you haven’t done a lot of
public speaking you may not know the tips and tricks the pros use to
make themselves look calm, cool, and collected. Here are some ways you
can make it look like you give wedding speeches and toasts every day.
First things First - Use the Right Body Language
Using proper gestures and body language is important to giving a
wedding speech. Where your hands are and how you present yourself to
your audience tells them how confident you are in giving a speech. Avoid
wringing your hands or putting them in pockets. Stand up straight and
smile as you give your wedding toast – rehearse the speech standing in
front of a mirror or better still video your rehearsal and study your
Speak with Conviction
Do remember that you want people to believe what you are saying in
your wedding speech, so be sure to speak with conviction and confidence.
Your wedding toast or speech should come from the heart, speaking with
conviction should be pretty natural.
Make Eye Contact
Some people will may advise you to look over the heads of the group
at a point in the back of the room, but most guests will wonder why you
are watching the back wall. Much better to use the three-second rule by
making eye contact with a number of different guests for three seconds
at a time.
Avoid Looking at Your Notes
It is in your best interest to write out your wedding speech and
practice your toast beforehand, but a good public speaker is so well
rehearsed that notes are used as a last resort. Place a note card in
front of you to remind you of the main points of your wedding toast, but
avoid reading off the cards as this gives the impressions that you are
Use Pauses Strategically
All good comedian knows how effective a pause can be, because it
gives “punch” to the punch line and gives your audience time to react.
Use a pause during important moments of your wedding speech and give
people time to laugh or clap if it is appropriate.
The best ways to decrease your stress while giving your wedding toast is
to get people laughing. It will most likely relax you and get the guests
prepped for the more meaningful part of your wedding speech. However
plan your jokes well in advance, many best men use this as an
opportunity to embarrass their best friends, though you do need to know
them and their families very well to get away with it.
Know When to Quit
Wedding toasts and speeches are not meant to be long and drawn out.
Keep your speech to no more than three to five minutes long. If you feel
like the guests are not responding, adjust your speech to make it
shorter. Remember, this is your chance to honour the bride and groom on
their special day, not to show off your speaking
But do make this a memorable occasion for all – and finally DON’T